A LIVED IN HOME | OKLAHOMA FAMILY AND BIRTH STORYTELLING PHOTOGRAPHER

I use to obsess about keeping my house spotless. If someone was coming over, I’d clean all day to make sure everything looked perfect. Even on a normal day, I’d run behind my young boys constantly picking up the toys they’d just got bored of playing with and put them all back into their designated places. When my husband would leave his dirty socks on the floor, I’d tell him to pick them up, thinking that if I reminded him enough then he’d remember to NOT to leave them on the floor. I know, that’s laughable right?! 

 I let my boys play with dry beans for sensory play. My little one thought it would be a blast to put them in a sock and swing it around his room…

I let my boys play with dry beans for sensory play. My little one thought it would be a blast to put them in a sock and swing it around his room…

Then something started to change. I found friends that didn’t care if their house looked perfect when people came over. Their houses looked like lived in homes and not something straight out of a magazine and they didn’t even care! I was secretly blown away. Still, I wasn’t quite convinced that perfection wasn’t something to strive for. But slowly, I began to realize that perfection doesn’t equal happiness and spotless equals boring.

Then one day, it clicked. I can’t remember why exactly. Maybe it was something I read. Maybe it was because my husband spent a month in the hospital and I didn’t know if he was going to make it out alive. But I started seeing things differently. When I saw socks on the floor that needed to be picked up, it was a welcomed reminder that I had loved ones to clean up after. Beyond that, I stopped trying to make my house look perfect all the time. I still prefer a picked up house to a cluttered messy house any day but when there are video game cases strung out in the living room and mail has been on the kitchen counter for a week, I appreciate the fact that we live here. It’s our home. Dirty hand prints on the wall and couch cushions half on the couch and half off the couch mean that I have three little boys living in my house and I couldn’t be more thankful for that. 

 I had been editing a birth story for a couples of hours on my computer in my room and came out to find this lol! Somehow even the pictures on the wall were crooked! I have no idea what my boys were doing in here…

I had been editing a birth story for a couples of hours on my computer in my room and came out to find this lol! Somehow even the pictures on the wall were crooked! I have no idea what my boys were doing in here…

So… when I get asked, “Does my house need to be spotless for an in-home session?” my answer is NO. It should look like your home. A picked up house is nice for a session but it doesn’t need to be deep cleaned. Remembering the sticky little finger prints on the refrigerator is arguably just as important as remembering the freckles on your child’s face. Storytelling photos never let you forget.  

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